True Confession Time: when I was planning out my content for February and I penciled in “self-love” on my office whiteboard after Valentine’s Day, I had it listed right along with other loves. Right after pet love, sibling love, all the other loves we have been talking about the last couple of days.

A few days ago, my 12-year-old daughter walks into my office and is looking over my whiteboard, and asks what it means. I start to explain it to her. Her eyes glaze over a little bit.

I realize this is going to take days if not more than a week to give the subject matter the time it deserves. Be sure to get comfortable with the idea of truly understanding how to be great at loving ourselves.

Let’s start at the very beginning (ala Maria from The Songs of Music)

Self- love is not as simple as loving on your pet. Self- love is how we treat ourselves and view ourselves, which goes hand in hand with how we see the world and our place in it. Makes sending your annoying sister an “I Love You” text seem easy right?

The agreed upon definition of Self-Love per all knowing, all seeing resource of Google “regard for one’s own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic).”

To break it down in terms we can all understand it is to “have a healthy concern for ourselves”.

Women can really struggle with having a healthy concern for ourselves, as many of us were taught that is selfish, a trait which is not allowed and is deemed unacceptable.

We were taught either directly or through modeling by our mothers and other important female role models, that we are to be the last on our priority list. Not only does this do a number on our self-esteem, it can impact our health and quality of life. Before you get bummed out, know I have got you covered.

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