Wedding Strategies- Emotions
Weddings can be many things, one of them is long.
I have been in weddings where from the time we got our makeup done, until the cake was finally cut was 18 plus hours. This was after a year long engagement, 3 bridal showers, a bachelorette party and a girls weekend.
Plan ahead. Going anywhere on an empty stomach is never a good idea, but when you know there will be a cocktail hour which turns into hours as they wedding party takes pictures can make for a boozy dinner when it is time to sit down for dinner.
I have been to weddings before where the ceremony was 90 minutes, then with the travel time to the reception location, and the cocktail party, a good 4 hours has passed before we sit down to eat. Then the courses can be spaced apart for speeches.
Having an emergency bag of nuts in your purse can help you not devour the bread basket when the brides 3rd cousin won’t stop talking about that super funny time at Grandma’s. Remember to drink a lot of water, as weddings can go all day and if they are outside, dehydration is a consideration.
Weddings can also be emotional, they can have you thinking of how you really should have ended up with your ex, or that the Best Man could be your new ex.
The combination of the love in the air, the cocktail hour(s) and the intensity can have things looking all kinds of crazy. Having a plan of this as well is important.
How do you want to feel after the bouquet is tossed? That you are always the bridesmaid and never the bride OR that you were a participant in a great day full of friends and their families?
It is up to US to decide how we want to feel, and then mentally rehearse the day, much like the wedding party did the night before the ceremony.
Go through the day, envision how much fun you will have and what a lighthearted version of yourself you will be, and how you will have a handle on your own emotions and thoughts.
How any drinks will you have?
How many pieces of cake if at all will you be eating?
Remember sugar, much like Mike from college, only seems like a good idea at the time. A few days later, you will not regret declining cake or taking Mike out of your phone ahead of time, just in case.
Having the mental rehearsal ahead of time, will make it that much easier to have the day you want.
“It’s all to do with the training: you can do a lot if you’re properly trained.” Queen Elizabeth II.